Talking With a Dying Person about Death
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 Friends and family members often have a difficult time interacting with a dying person because thinking of someone we love who is dying can make our own mortality seem very real. However, open and honest communication can help friends and family members connect with each other and prevent feelings of regret that arise when things are left unsaid.

​ Sometimes friends and family members worry that they will upset their dying family member by asking questions or by bringing up the topic of dying. Likewise, sometimes the dying person fears that family members will be upset if he or she begins a conversation about death.

​ Tips for Talking with the Dying 
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Ask the dying person to share his or her thoughts and feelings. 
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​Just listen. If the person is in denial or does not wish to talk about it, respect that.
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Let the dying person know if you are feeling fearful or uncomfortable. 
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Ask the dying person what he or she expects from you. 
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Be honest about what you can offer.
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Be honest about what you feel comfortable talking about.
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 Let the person know that you are available if he or she wants to talk. 
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​If you feel you are too upset to talk with the dying person, ask the dying person's provider for a referral to help you with your feelings.